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Safe in the Storm by Jane Meier Hamilton

February 20th, 2014 by Lee Yahnke

 

Safe in the Storm

by JANE MEIER HAMILTON on FEBRUARY 19, 2014

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The storm blew in while we were sleeping. Ice-coated tree branches fell on power lines and blocked the roads. In the morning I was shocked by what had been quickly and unexpectedly taken from me: a warm house and hot cup of coffee, access to the Internet and the road to work, my creature comforts and regular routine.

Life was turned upside down and I was powerless to change the situation. Along with 715,000 other households, I’d lost power, light, and heat. What I had was an abundance of uncertainty, a small measure of discomfort, and no idea when power crews would fix the lines. Fortunately, I was spared physical harm and property damage. The storm was disruptive and draining, but at least I was safe.

Not so for Gail’s 85-year-old parents, whose home is 10 miles from hers. Gail’s dad is recovering from recent surgery; her mom is feeble and depends on a walker. Both have mild dementia and are fiercely independent. Also without power, they were trying to heat their home with candles! Gail was wild with anxiety, worrying they’d start a house fire, or one of them would fall and be unable to get help.

Caregiving Crises

The ice storm and talking with Gail got me thinking about crises in caregiving, brought on by things like:

  • Conditions: Broken hip, blindness, stroke, cancer, a rare disease, or chronic illness
  • Decisions: Take away car keys, move to assisted living, begin hospice, or remove a breathing tube
  • Conflicts: Doing enough, doing the right thing, or balancing work and caregiving responsibilities

Caregiving crises develop when health conditions change, difficult decisions must be made, or conflicts arise. Overwhelming as a major storm, they disrupt daily routines, demand a response, and can drastically change lives.

As with storms, you must find ways to live through caregiving crises. It’s impossible to predict exactly how or when they’ll end. But you can count on anxious moments and debates about what to do. Post-crisis, life is different. Sometimes the changes are minor, sometimes significant. Whatever the outcome, there is always relief when the storm has passed.

To stay safe in the storm, practice self-care:

  • Stay calm. Anxiety, fear, and panic block logical decision making. These emotions are contagious and can raise fears in those around you. Calm yourself by breathing slowly and deeply. Affirm your strength and capacity to handle adversity. Envision positive resolutions. Distract your mind from worry by focusing on topics or activities that aren’t related to the crisis. Do what works best to help you relax.
  • Create a plan. Don’t waste time and energy focusing on things you don’t control. Identify ways to improve your situation: what you can influence, improve, decrease, or eliminate. When making plans, be specific by defining who will do what. Set a time for each action. Make sure actions are achievable, and assignments are reasonable and within people’s abilities. Get agreement with others on the plan. Then take action and follow up to check progress.

 

  • Connect with others. It’s awful to feel alone in a storm or crisis; it’s always easier to bear with the support of others. Discuss the situation and how you feel about it. Ask for, and offer, a helping hand or words of encouragement. Seek advice from experts or from others who have had similar experiences. Even if you are totally cut off from other people, you can always turn to God.

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  • Look for the light. On the second day of no lights at my house, I took this picture of brilliant sun shining through ice-covered trees. It reminded me that in the darkest of times there are moments of light and love. In the midst of difficulties lie small islands of peace. Clarity eventually comes when struggling with uncertainty. Hold onto hope; it will help you through the storm.

Try these self-care strategies during caregiving crises. As you do so much for others, remember to take good care of yourself, too….Jane

About the Author

Jane Meier Hamilton MSN, RN, is CEO and founder of Partners on the Path LLC, a leader in providing corporate-sponsored caregiver support programs to businesses that employ, and nonprofits that support, caregivers. She has been a nurse for 40 years and family caregiver for 20. Learn about Jane’s research-based, resilience-building resources atwww.PartnersonthePath.com. Find her book, The Caregiver’s Guide to Self-Care (Infinity 2011) in print, one-hour audio, and e-book formats at your favorite online provider.

Eldercare Resource Day - 2014

January 18th, 2014 by Lee Yahnke

Eldercare Resource Day - 2014

Join us for a day of learning. The information provided on this day will help you navigate the challenges of caring for a family elder.

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This annual day-long conference presents seminars specifically for family caregivers. If you are an adult child with an aging parent or a caregiver, this is one day you cannot afford to miss.


You can check out the details of our 2014 event here.

 

 

 

 

 

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Eldercare Resource Day

March 29th, 2013 by Lee Yahnke
Join us on
Saturday April 6, 2013
8:00am-2 p.m.
Timberline Church 
2908 S Timberline Rd
Fort Collins, CO

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A Day of Learning for Family Caregivers

Sponsored by

Elder Care Network of Northern Colorado

$10 registration includes 3 sessions, handouts, lunch, and camaraderie

Caregivers Provide Care; They Don’t Necessarily Seek It.

October 29th, 2011 by Lee Yahnke

We see a need and we feel responsible to react. Becoming a caregiver brings with it the fulfillment of knowing your loved one is well cared for.  It also means your life will change and the lives of those in your immediate circle will also experience change.

Caregivers, primarily women but not exclusively, will sacrifice family time, social time, and personal time to avoid feeling guilty. As time progresses and your loved one requires more care, you’ll have decisions to make that are heart wrenching, if not difficult at the least.

You’ll find a comprehensive list of private business and organizations who offer services to you as the caregiver and to your loved one in the Elder Care Network membership at www.eldercarenet.org.

Prepare yourself. Your work will be time consuming and unpredictable. You might have a good experience with supportive family members, or not. Hmmm. That is something the counselors at Elder Care Network can help you with. Be a “seeker” and not an overwhelmed person with more than you can possibly manage without help.

Good Times Together

Larimer County Discussion Focuses on Aging Loved Ones

August 20th, 2011 by Lee Yahnke

In November 2011 I attended a Health District of Northern Larimer County Community Discussion to determine the needs of our residents and providers. The discussions were held in small groups of similar interests. All the groups’ ideas were summarized and distributed to the participants and appropriate county offices.

One topic of interest to me was and is the need for more information and resources for the care of aging loved ones. The Eldercare Network website has a comprehensive list of resources and providers. When we are facing a growing number of seniors who are living longer, our community needs to adapt on many levels.

For family members who live out of town or work full time and raise a family, resources are the answer. Being proactive with siblings and our aging loved ones will make the experience better overall. The conversation is difficult to start, but what sense does it make to wait for an emergency situation when decisions are made under duress? We all want to live healthy and happily to the end of our lives. There is hope.